WHAT MEN AFRAID OF in 20, 30, 40 years?
Some say that the fears associated with age only pursue women. And in vain: the men in this regard as vulnerable, if not more, than we do - because it is most often silent about what they care about. Here are some of the "age" of men's fears, which can ruin your relationship. Typically male somehow believe the fears that are associated exclusively with sexual problems. Their classical trio is the size of the penis, erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. But these nightmares can overtake a man at any age, and deal with them is still better on reception at the sexologist. The usual "age" the fear is the fear of aging - can make a man at some point to buy a subscription to a fitness center, go to the nutritionist, cosmetologist or plastic surgeon - and sometimes it manifests itself in the form that describes a well-known proverb "gray in his beard, a demon edge". However, there is another, purely psychological fears category, each of which can express yourself in a relationship, when a man of 20, 30 or 40 years. What is interesting, in any case, the cause of the problems; he said it was a woman...
What's happening? You basically are ready to begin choosing a wedding dress - and he carefully avoids even the slightest hint of such topics. Well, of course! After all, if we say "marriage", they usually mean and "responsibility" - for the joint life, monthly budget, a loan for an apartment and stuff ... This responsibility is not easy here so decide and assume, if you - a free young man still quite irresponsible age. What to do? Just do not rush. You may still need a little better know each other, to work together to make an informed decision. Provide the right events to take their course: in the end, it may be that the project is "family-children-credit and everything else," you later want to implement with a completely different, more mature and confident person.
30 years old, "too independent"
What's happening? You earn more than he, or occupy a higher position - and it spoils his mood. Modern women are becoming more active and self-sufficient - but in spite of this positive fact, many men unknowingly continue to be guided by the ideal of a dominant male, which "he will decide everything" and "will do everything himself."They are not convinced even the argument that the financial plan for the couple sometimes more profitable to the woman sold herself as she wants, and not, as required by the traditional model of family. The fear of "excessive" feminine independence causes a man to question his own values ( "And what I do she needs?", "What it will be I love and respect?" ...) And can come to the fore at the very moment when he decides to create a permanent or a couple is already living in a marriage. What to do? Do not give up its ambitions - it would be a vain sacrifice. Man can deal with this fear, if only to understand and believe: you and not because someone from your "weaker" or "stronger" - but just because you like it, and it's your choice. In the end, even a very strong woman from time to time needs support - and it will only be happy if you let me give it to you.
40 years old: "She has a difficult character"
What's happening? Unpredictable, bright, eccentric - such traits of the female image impress men, otherwise they you would be too easy and too boring! However, there is something depends on age: the more men experience the adventure, the most in a relationship he wants something more quiet and not bearing risk. What to do?Bright character in your pocket you cannot hide: Stay for what you are - a unique and unique! The more complex personality themes and beautiful that consists of many and varied features. Sensitivity, attention, gentleness, tenderness - if you possess these qualities, do not hesitate to show their: such "complexity" can be your greatest advantage.